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Motherhood.....Maybe

 As Mother's Day approaches, remember to treat yourself and others with care.  There is so much about each other, and ourselves, that we are still trying to understand.  


Be gentle with yourself.  Forgive yourself.  Maybe forgive her.  Maybe don't.  Maybe talk to her.  Maybe don't.  Maybe let some of it go.  If you can.


Maybe give yourself a break and admit you're doing your best.  Maybe let some things go.  Maybe don't pay attention to influencers.  Maybe stop trying to being an influencer yourself.  Just be.  Maybe just be you.  Maybe stop caring about what anyone else thinks.  



Maybe laugh about it.  Kid about it.  Turn it all into a joke.  Be glad you never had kids and never wanted any.  Rejoice in your freedom.  Enjoy your empty nest.  Your quiet time.  Money that only belongs to you.  Maybe see it differently.  



Maybe treat yourself.  Maybe cry a little.  Mourn a little.  Ugly cry.  Feel it.  Feel her.  Remember.  Forget.  Maybe talk to her.  Maybe talk to yourself.  Maybe talk to somebody else.  Maybe think about the loss.  The pain.  The unfairness.  Maybe take it down to the bone.  




Maybe be your beautiful self.  Get a new dress, a new swimsuit, a new set of paint, new guitar strings. New jeans.  A new piercing. Maybe rock out.  Maybe go for a run.  Maybe stay on the couch.  Maybe eat whatever you'd like. Don't care about calories.  About A1C.   Maybe not care about a single worrisome thing for just one day.  



Maybe let men have their feelings too.  Maybe recognize the motherhood of men.  The difficulties of their own feelings.  Their own pasts.  Maybe give them their space.  Maybe let them cry too.  Give them some allowance we don't always discuss.  Maybe try to understand.  



Maybe you're not like everyone else.  Maybe that's okay.  Maybe you should be who you are.  Maybe we're all doing our best.  Maybe she did her best too.  Maybe.  Just maybe......
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