When you're going through something bad, spend some time alone. Allow yourself to cry, wear dirty pajamas and eat whatever you want. Don't worry about how you look or who you offend. You're in your own space. Do you.
When you're going through something bad, reconnect with people from your past. They knew you before you knew yourself. They'll help remind you of who you are.
When you're going through something bad, be easy on yourself. Forgive yourself. Own what you did. Don't own what you didn't do.
When you're going through something bad, listen to a lot of heavy metal. Preferably from the 1980's.
When you're going through something bad, lean on the people in your life that you know you can count on. Friends, family, coworkers, a partner, kids. The people who understand you and know what you're like everyday. The people you don't have to perform for.
When you're going through something bad, leave the event when you're ready. Don't stay longer that you want. Say no and stay home if you want. Give yourself permission for exit.
When you're going through something bad, you should listen to a lot of Adele and Mary J. Blige and remember that they are beautiful and talented women who have gone through what you're going through and maybe even worse. And what's more, they took their pain and made it into art.
When you're going through something bad, read about the life of Nan Goldin.
When you're going through something bad, listen to Rufus Wainwright.
When you're going through something bad, listen to your body and your heart. Follow your own cues. Heal at your own pace and no kind of arbitrary pace that someone or something has set for you. Trust yourself.
When you're going through something bad, work if you can, exercise if you can, do the best you can. Distractions and endorphins are good.
When you're going through something bad, chant, meditate, sing, pray, scream. Do whatever it takes for you to find comfort and solace.
When you're going through something bad, notice when you're starting to feel better but go slow. Regard your pain like an injury that requires care. Maybe less and less care, but still needs to be considered.
When you're going through something bad, pet animals......dogs, cats, sheep, squirrels.....whatever is available to you that won't bite.
When you're going through something bad, protect yourself against people and things who may not be looking out for your best interest.
When you're going through something bad, ask for help.
When you're going through something bad, stand beside a large piece of construction equipment like a dump truck. Or climb inside a (not in use) excavator bucket. It will remind you that the world is big and you are small. And also, that dirt always gets scooped and dumped. You are not that dirt.
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